The marriage of Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him and Lady Aisha
All thanks to Allah and peace and blessing upon his mercy to the worlds , prophet Muhammad and upon his family and companions .
This article addresses a widely spread misconception about Islam that is probably the first thing Islamophobes spam when they preach their doctrine of hate , the marriage of prophet Muhammad peace upon him to the mother of believers Aisha may Allah be pleased of her . The lying enemies of Islam make the claim that she was a “child” when she got married to the prophet peace upon him . And their source of objection is the following narration :
Sahih Bukhari Volume 5, Book 58, Number 236:
Narrated Hisham’s father:
Khadija died three years before the Prophet departed to Medina. He stayed there for two years or so and then he married ‘Aisha when she was a girl of six years of age, and he consumed that marriage when she was nine years old.
Sahih Muslim Book 008, Number 3310:
‘A’isha (Allah be pleased with her) reported: Allah’s Apostle (may peace be upon him) married me when I was six years old, and I was admitted to his house when I was nine years old.
Sahih Muslim Book 008, Number 3311:
‘A’isha (Allah be pleased with her) reported that Allah’s Apostle (may peace be upon him) married her when she was seven years old, and she was taken to his house as a bride when she was nine, and her dolls were with her; and when he (the Holy Prophet) died she was eighteen years old.
And in this article – Allah wills – there won’t be anything for a phobe to use .
1) Can a female mature at the age of 9 ?
It is a serious misconception among the majority of people that a person doesn’t mature until 16-18 years old . I would like anyone who reads this to ask their grandparents about the age of marriage in general on their time or their near ancestors . It wouldn’t be surprising to hear that it might range from 8 to 15 years old which are all younger than the legal age of marriage in most countries . And since I know a lot of stubborn individuals will say something like “You lying Muslim ! What’s your evidence ?!” I’ll bring you some western sources :
In the Arabic version of “Description of Egypt” by Chabrol de Voivic , first volume , page 30 it says (Roughly translated from the Arabic translation)
We shouldn’t be surprised about such early marriages in such an area where the weather works on inducing maturity and agitate desires at an early age
Note : Different editions may differ in the page number
And the Medscape website says about puberty :
Precocious puberty refers to the appearance of physical and hormonal signs of pubertal development at an earlier age than is considered normal. For many years, puberty was considered precocious in girls younger than 8 years; however, recent studies indicate that signs of early puberty (breasts and pubic hair) are often present in girls (particularly black girls) aged 6-8 years. For boys, onset of puberty before age 9 years is considered precocious.
And this is about Menarche :
Menarche usually occurs about two years after your breasts develop (thelarche) and between 4 and 6 months after the growth of your pubic and underarm hair. The age of menarche in most North American women is around 12 or 13, though your first period can come anytime between 9 and 16, depending upon your height, weight, and cultural background. Early menarche is occurring more and more – girls as young as 8 have been known to get their periods. This is referred to as premature menarche.
And the following is a picture of a newspaper about a 9 years old Thai girl giving brith :
As you can see , the hospital says she’s healthy .
And this is about a 9 years old girl from Nicaragua getting an abortion after being raped :
Keep in mind : I’m not mentioning this because I approve of what the man did . It doesn’t require a genius to tell you that rape is a serious crime in Islam . I just mentioned this to show that people do mature earlier than 18 . I said this because I KNOW there are individuals with twisted mentalities who have no shreds of honesty and will probably misquote me to make it look like I approve of rape . And after all this bolded text , if I actually see that happen , they’d be lowlier than I imagined .
And from this page on Wikipedia :
You see the ages of maturity differing from country to country and you can see that UK and USA differ in it even inside the same country !
And for the record , in Judaism it says :
Sanhedrin 55b. A Jew may marry a three year old girl
And in Christianity – I quote from the following site – :
It will not be without interest to recall here, unreliable though they are, the lengthy stories concerning St. Joseph’s marriage contained in the apocryphal writings. When forty years of age, Joseph married a woman called Melcha or Escha by some, Salome by others; they lived forty-nine years together and had six children, two daughters and four sons, the youngest of whom was James (the Less, “the Lord’s brother”). A year after his wife’s death, as the priests announced through Judea that they wished to find in the tribe of Juda a respectable man to espouse Mary, then twelve to fourteen years of age. Joseph, who was at the time ninety years old, went up to Jerusalem among the candidates; a miracle manifested the choice God had made of Joseph, and two years later the Annunciation took place.
So what does all that mean ? It means puberty doesn’t HAVE TO happenat 18 , 16 , or 15 years . It differs from area to area and person to person .
2) What does Islam say about the age of marriage ?
Simply put , there isn’t a minimal age of marriage in Islam . Now hold it ! Before you jump the gun and misquote me here , read the whole thing .
What do we mean by marriage ? To make it simple I’ll quote Wikipedia again :
Marriage (also called matrimony or wedlock) is a socially or ritually recognized union or legal contract between spouses that establishes rights and obligations between them, between them and their children, and between them and their in-laws.
So clearly , marriage is not just about sexual intercourse as some would like to think . In Islam , it is possible to marry youngsters – with their approval of course – if there is a benefit to them from that . However , maturity and physicall capability are of mandatory for any form of sexual intercourse . That is why the prophet peace upon him waited 3 years until lady Aisha was mature enough .
3) What proof do you have that lady Aisha was an adult at the age of 9 ?
It’s kinda hilarious when I hear – or read :) – someone say this . I already demonstrated how a female can reach puberty as early as 6 . And I did mention that it’s mandatory in Islam for the sopuses to be mature and capable of sexual intercourse to go through it . So unless someone proves that the mother of believers Aisha may Allah be pleased of her was not an adult , I’ll treat this as a joke and ignore it .
Oh , and after all of this , if someone is going so lowly as to say she’s a child because of playing with swings and dolls , here’s a gift .
It’s just a movie ? Then what about this ? :
“Nah , Indians are [Insert racism here]” ? What about this ?
Here’s a simple fact : Physical and mental maturiy have nothing to do with dolls or swings .
4) Does ANY charecteristic of child abuse match with this marriage ?
Let’s see what child abuse is :
the engaging of a child in sexual activities that the child cannot comprehend, for which the child is developmentally unprepared and cannot give informed consent, and/or that violate the social and legal taboos of society.
And now let’s look at them one by one them one by one :
the child cannot comprehend
Obviously wrong since an adult does comprehend sexual activity .
for which the child is developmentally unprepared
After giving all those sources , it’s clearly wrong that an adult is unprepared .
and cannot give informed consent
As just said .
and violate the social taboos of society.
Considering that nobody , and I mean NOBODY objected on this marriage until the last century – last two centuries maybe – , it’s safe to say that it is wrong in this case .
And I’ll conclude with saying that if someone abuses a law , it doesn’t mean the law is wrong . Because if true , we should abandon traffic signs and lights since there are so many who break it . And that’s the same with Islam . If someone acts against its teachings , Islam is not to blame .
Allah knows best .